About Jeff Savlov: Jeff Savlov is the Founder of Blum & Savlov, LLP, and consults with business families, legacy wealth families, and the advisors who serve them. He brings more than 30 years of unique experience in sales and marketing, business ownership, entrepreneurial endeavors, family dynamics/psychological training, and a common-sense style to his consulting work with families. By integrating his diverse business background, extensive academic work, and family dynamics/psychological training with his experience working in his family’s commercial printing business, Jeff helps enterprising families balance family and business/wealth so both will thrive for generations. Jeff has consulted on relationship and team dynamics with Fortune 500 companies such as Bristol-Myers Squibb, Johnson & Johnson, and Schering Plough. He also devotes a portion of his time to performance enhancement with corporate executives and elite high school athletes. Check out the latest episode of our Conversational Selling podcast to learn more about Jeff.
In this episode, Nancy and Jeff discuss the following:
- The role of the Sandler methodology in understanding client needs and building relationships
- Jeff’s background and journey into family consulting
- The challenges faced by wealthy families and the specialized assistance they require
- Strategies for acquiring clients: speaking engagements and referrals
- Jeff’s unique approach to using Metallica’s story in his workshops
Key Takeaways:
- It’s easy to idealize being wealthy, but there are many challenges.
- One of my areas is parenting in the context of family wealth and how to start when kids are young to raise them so that those values will remain there when they learn about money.
- DISC is excellent for people who don’t have the training to help them think about the general categories that people fall into.
“I got trained as a family therapist. After grad school, I did another seven years of training in a psychoanalytic institute for seven years. Like I said, I got fully certified and started a private practice doing talk therapy 30 years ago. And just by coincidence, some of my early therapy clients also had significant wealth or family businesses. I was working with them as a therapist, and I could see that there was a need that was different than therapy, but that lawyers, accountants, and wealth managers didn’t have the training and background to go into the family dynamic side. So, I saw an opportunity to do something that was not therapy but between what a therapist and business consultants do. I started to work slowly and consult with families. Again, I’m not working on finance taxes or operations. I’m helping families develop strong family teams and work together two or three generations at a time. Now that people are living longer, you can easily have, you know, 80-year-olds, 50-year-olds, and 20-year-olds working together. I help them work together, develop leadership, communicate well, and make transitions from one generation to the next, helping the senior generation step back, give the next generation opportunity, and developing the next generation to step up and take over.” – JEFF
“ In terms of meeting people and those early stages when I’m trying to decide if I want to work with them and they’re trying to decide if they want to work with me, Sandler has been incredibly valuable. And what I just said is really at the heart of it. Sandler talks about a level playing field. So, it’s not like, “Hey, I’m the poor guy with the poor schmuck with something to sell. I hope you’ll buy it.” It’s more like I have something of value; I’m looking for people who need it, have pain around it that I can solve, and have respect for what I bring. And they’re looking for someone to help them with their pain, and it’s mutual. And Sandler, that part of the Sandler attitude is that it’s a level playing field but a two-way street. I’m not just looking for anyone who’ll hire me. And that’s a big piece of it. I feel like the rapport part of the equation is something I’ve always been good at just naturally, and certainly years of being a therapist, and that’s a big part of the Sandler piece.” – JEFF
“I find sales is fun. Even though I am primarily sort of a consultant and I’m doing, you know, professional consulting services, I must find— I’m a solo guy. I must find my, you know, my clients and serve them. And that is sales. And I think that sales— really, life is sales, not in a manipulative way, but life is about understanding people, seeing if there’s a common need or desire, and then going for it. And so, I find it a lot of fun. Sometimes, I land a big client, and then I’m disappointed. I must do the work. Not that I don’t enjoy the work, but I find sales— I love the hunt. And I find it enjoyable. I don’t know, people think it’s crazy that aren’t into it.” – JEFF
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- Blum & Savlov, LLP: https://blumandsavlov.com/about/
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Voiceover: You’re listening to The Conversational Selling Podcast with Nancy Calabrese.
Nancy Calabrese: Hi, it’s Nancy Calabrese, and it’s time again for Conversational selling – the podcast where sales leaders and business experts share what’s going on in sales and marketing today and it always starts with the human conversation. Today we’re speaking with my colleague Jeff Savlov, family business and wealth consultant, speaker, coach, and facilitator. He brings more than 25 years of experience to his work with families and family enterprises through his consulting work with Blum and Savlov. Jeff helps multi-generational family enterprises manage complex decisions related to their shared assets. He guides families as they move along the continuum from operating businesses to owning and managing multiple assets where a family’s emotional and financial lives are tied together in pursuit of the common future. Welcome to the show, Jeff. I’m so happy to have you.
Jeff Savlov: Yeah, thanks, Nancy. It’s great to be here. [1:17]
Nancy Calabrese: Yeah, so Jeff and I go back many years and I’ve been trying to get him on the show for quite some time. We finally made it. Talk about how you got involved in this business. What’s your background?
Jeff Savlov: Yeah, so it was sort of by accident. Its kind of just fell together. I grew up in my family’s family business. I’ll give you the quick and dirty. Grew up in my family’s family business, middle school, I would go to the New York City on weekends. And then we opened a second location in New Jersey. High school, I got involved. Even during college, I stayed involved. As the business grew, my dad, who was really a blue-collar technical guy who started his own business, wasn’t really experienced as a manager or a leader got super stressed out, took out his stress on me, which is an unusual in family business. My mom found a family therapist that worked with parents and kids in family businesses. My dad agreed to go, the whole family went, my sisters too, they weren’t involved in the business. Had a really, transformative experience for the business, but also as father and son and for our family. I decided, you know what, I don’t love commercial printing and I love you dad and working together isn’t working for us, so I’m going to go my own way. I went into sales and marketing and that was my first sales job, which was interesting and had a lot of good experience while I was still actually in college. So had that experience, like I said, left the family business. But I was so moved by what that family therapist had done for us that I went back to grad school. I studied family and group dynamics. I got trained as a family therapist. After grad school, I did another seven years training in a psychoanalytic institute for seven years, like I said, got fully certified started a private practice doing talk therapy 30 years ago. And just by coincidence, some of my early therapy clients also had significant wealth or family businesses. And I was working with them as a therapist and I could see that there was needed that was different than therapy, but that lawyers and accounts and wealth managers didn’t have the training and background to go into the family dynamic side. And so, I saw there was an opportunity to do something that was not therapy but was sort of in between what a therapist does and what business consultants do. And I started to slowly work and consult with families. Again, I’m not working on finance or taxes or operations. I’m helping families develop strong family teams and to work together two, three generations at a time. Now that people are living longer, you can easily have you know, 80-year-olds, 50 year olds, and 20 year olds, all working together. I help them work together, develop leadership, communicate well, and make transitions from one generation to the next, helping the senior generation step back, give the next generation opportunity and developing the next generation to step up and take over. [4:08]
Nancy Calabrese: Wow. So, what’s talk therapy?
Jeff Savlov: Psychotherapy, talk therapy, it’s what you think of as therapy or counseling. I use talk therapy for sure, but some people just use therapy, but it’s what you think of when you think about going to someone and talking about your problems. [4:24]
Nancy Calabrese: Yeah, so why do rich people need special help?
Jeff Savlov: You know, being rich ain’t all it’s cracked up to be. You know, it’s easy to idealize being wealthy, but there’s a lot of challenges. How do you raise kids? Especially 70 something, 75% give or take of millionaires are self-created in the U.S. right now. So, these are people that develop their own businesses, companies, whatever it was that they did to be entrepreneurial, develop their own wealth, and often they come from working class or blue-collar backgrounds. And so, they had built into their own childhoods, the need to work hard and create what they wanted to create. Now they have children who are growing up and it’s already there, the nice house and the cars and the vacations. So, there’s a lot of challenges with creating wealth and then how do you raise kids who can deal with that and won’t be spoiled and will have their own work ethic. It’s trickier than you might think. I mean, if you had a billion with a B, just say you had a billion dollars, how would you handle that with your kids? Would you tell them? When do you tell them? How do you raise them so that they’ll be responsible, and they won’t just sort of blow it all in their wild teenage and early adult years? So, there’s a lot of challenges there. And that’s really my expertise. One of my areas is parenting in the context of family wealth and how to start when kids are young to raise them in a way that they will be motivated and responsible, so that when they learn about the money, those values will still be there. [5:57]
Nancy Calabrese: Well, so how do you find your clients and sell them?
Jeff Savlov: So, I do a lot of speaking, paid speaking around the country, which is fun to do. I write a blog that’s popular. I’ve over the last 30 years met a lot of professionals whose clients, you know, trust and estate attorneys, accountants. Wealth managers who have wealthy clients and they’ve all seen the issues families face, but they never really knew what to do with it because they didn’t have my kind of a background. So, they’re really thrilled often to know somebody like me and make introductions, but it is hard because they’re also nervous. They’re not familiar with my world. They’re nervous. They’re going to insult their clients by saying, hey, here’s a guy that can help you parent better or help you work better as a family. They’re afraid they’re going to insult the client. So I’d have to do a lot of education with these people, these professionals who refer their clients, how to bring this up, how to keep it positive, how to say that this is normal stuff every family goes through, but now there are professionals like Jeff who have a different kind of expertise and I’d like you to meet him and not make it in terms of something’s wrong with your family, but more there’s an opportunity here and there is some danger coming your way and there’s an opportunity to manage it and get ahead of it. [7:10]
Nancy Calabrese: Sure. So, you and I both study Sandler methodology, and I know that we’ve been colleagues for many years now. How does Sandler help you in working with your clients?
Jeff Savlov: So, in terms of meeting people and those early stages when I’m trying to decide if I want to work with them and they’re trying to decide if they want to work with me, Sandler has been incredibly valuable. And what I just said is really at the heart of it, Sandler talks about a level playing field. So, it’s not like, hey, I’m the poor guy with the poor schmuck with something to sell, I hope you’ll buy it. It’s more like I have something of value, I’m looking for people who need it have pain around it that I can solve and have respect for what I bring. And they’re looking for someone who can help them with their pain and it’s mutual. And Sandler, that part of the Sandler attitude of it’s a level playing field, it’s a two-way street. I’m not just looking for anyone who’ll hire me. What’s that? Eagle stature. [8:13]
Nancy Calabrese: Yeah, equal stature, right? Equal stature. I think that’s so important.
Jeff Savlov: And that’s a big piece of it. I feel like the rapport part of the equation is something I’ve always been good at just naturally and certainly years of being a therapist and that’s a big part of the Sandler piece. And the other thing I would add is once you’ve gotten through sort of the initial rapport and there’s a back and forth around, I feel like you’re a client that I could help and I would want to work with and you’d be fun to work with and they feel like, Jeff, you’re a good guy, you have something to offer, we’d like to work with you. Once all that is solidified upfront, to really have an open, honest conversation about budget. [8:47]
Nancy Calabrese: Right.
Jeff Savlov: And what kind of fees were they expecting to pay? What kind of fees do I charge? Is there a match? Is it too far apart that it just doesn’t fit? And just talk it all out. I think in the old days before Sandler, I do the bonding and rapport and have a conversation, and then I just email them a proposal and keep my fingers crossed. And sometimes they were shocked by the number, but there was no conversation. It was like, it was shocking. And that’s one of the best things, most valuable things I’ve got from Sandler’s while I’m still in the room meeting them and talking with them is to say, Hey, let’s talk about budget, let’s talk about the amount of money you thought this would cost. Let me tell you about my fees. Let’s see if there’s a fit for what we’re both looking for and having that conversation and really getting that kind of cleared up directly face to face before sending a proposal. So now the proposal is a rubber stamp. They’ve already heard the number and agreed to it, or we decided to go separate ways. It seems crazy that I used to just send a proposal and hope for the best compared to this. This is one of the most powerful things I’ve gotten from Sandler. [9:48]
Nancy Calabrese: Right. Yeah, yeah, I agree with you. And you know, my early days in sales, I would do the same thing. But now understanding, I think what I gain most from Sandler is the opportunity to really determine are we going to be a good fit? Am I going to be a solution for this customer? Are they going to be a good fit for my people and my organization? So, what’s your unique idea that’s different and sets you apart?
Jeff Savlov: So, I like to say, surprise them upfront, rather than coming in with the hard sell or going right to business, I try to find something out from the prospect. I’ll look at LinkedIn, social media, something where we might have something in common. So rather than sitting down and getting right into the business thing, I might sit down and say, hey, I saw that you like to volunteer at a soup kitchen in Texas where you live. I’ve been volunteering for 15 years at a soup kitchen in Trenton, New Jersey for you and it’s really not only is it disarming but honestly I’m interested in the same thing as them and I want to have a conversation it’s really genuine and so I think that kind of let’s just talk about something that neither one of us was expecting just to sort of start getting some common ground it’s a really powerful thing and because it’s genuine it’s not manipulative and I’m interested it I think it comes off well. [11:10]
Nancy Calabrese: So, we just came out of a class all about DISC, communication styles, right? And somebody brought up in our meeting, how do you do it when you’re having a conversation? How do you figure out their communication style? How do you go about it? Like what are some of the things you listen for or look for?
Jeff Savlov: Yeah. So, you and I happened to be in the same small group and we were discussing that. And when I was starting to say, and we got our, we timed out of our little breakout, just as I was finishing up, because I’ve had such deep and, and such long experience in, you know, as a family therapist, as a psychoanalyst working deeply with people. This is aside from the consulting work, this is sort of the, the psychotherapy work that I do for so long, which feeds into the consulting work. [12:00]
Nancy Calabrese: Yeah.
Jeff Savlov: Um, for me, DISC kind of throws me a little bit because it sort of puts me in my head when I have sort of an instinct for this based on 30 years of meeting all kinds of people and helping get deeply into their problems. So, I feel like for me, there’s an intuitive process of, um, of, so I might not use the disc terms of, you know, Eagle or dove or parrot or what, owl. Um, but for me, it’s clear to me that someone is, is sort of aggressive. Um, they clearly want to keep things moving. They might curse. If somebody curses in the first few minutes or first meeting, I might throw in a curse in a playful way and I think they appreciate that. I’ll keep things moving because I see that there’s someone that wants to keep things moving. If there’s someone that’s really talking a lot and telling stories, I can see that they’re the person that wants them back and forth and getting to know each other. For me, it happens intuitively based on all that training. I think DISC is great for people that don’t have that training to help you think, the general categories that people fall into. Here’s what they might be looking for. Here’s how you might want to handle it. Would you add anything to that or what would you say? [13:06]
Nancy Calabrese: Yeah. I mean, it’s powerful when you think about it. And I think I said this in the group. It makes selling fun to me, you know, trying to understand, um, you know, Jeff’s communication style as I’m speaking with him, because our goal in sales is to communicate like them, right? Not like yourself. And I, from that point of view, uh, look, my opening pitch is the same, pretty much to everyone, but then you get into really understanding the dynamics of, you know, how they like to learn, how they like to be spoken to. And I find it fascinating myself.
Jeff Savlov: Yeah, yeah, yeah. Really interesting, right?
Nancy Calabrese: Okay, so tell me something true that almost nobody agrees with you on.
Jeff Savlov: So, I find sales is fun. Even though I am primarily sort of a consultant and I’m doing, you know, professional consulting services, um, I must find, I’m a solo guy. I must find my, you know, my own clients and serve them. And that is sales. And I think that sales really life is sales, not in a manipulative way, but life is about understanding people, seeing if there’s a common need or desire and then sort of going for it. And so, I find it a lot of fun. Sometimes I land a big client and then I’m disappointed. I must do the work. Not that I don’t enjoy the work, but I find sales just, I love the hunt. And I find it enjoyable. I don’t know, people think it’s crazy that aren’t into it. [14:46]
Nancy Calabrese: Great. It’s so funny, Noelle in our class for the longest time swore that she wasn’t in sales, but everybody is in sales, right? Everybody is in sales, whether they admit it or not. You want to go to a movie, and you want to persuade your partner or your family member to, or a friend, you want to see your movie, not their movie. So, I don’t know, I find sales fascinating, you know.
Jeff Savlov: Yeah, I’m with you there.
Nancy Calabrese: Okay, so you come from your family business, you worked in sales and marketing, trained therapist and psychoanalyst. Is there anything else in store for you?
Jeff Savlov: Um, you know, I’ve said before, like when I became a therapist 30 years ago, I thought this was my final stop. And then I kind of fell into this. So, who knows, but I really like where I’m at now. It allows me to do a lot of things I like. I enjoy speaking and I’ve been getting sort of better and better fees for speaking. And I love speaking just on its own. So, to get paid to do it is fun. So, I think I’ll keep doing that. I like the families that I work with. Some of my families have businesses. Some of them don’t even have a business and they have just generational wealth without a business, but really big inherited wealth and they have a lot of the same issues around leadership and developing kids. So, there’s a lot of different things I can do, teaching parents, coaching parents with really young kids on how to raise them. I feel like I have so many different things that I can do that I’m not bored with it. So, who knows what the future brings. [16:22]
Nancy Calabrese: Hey, yeah, and you don’t you play a song when you travel a rock song to your people? When you go to conferences?
Jeff Savlov: I think you’re thinking of one of the workshops that I do, and I’ve done this to rooms of 200, 250 lawyers, accounts, wealth managers, as well as to families themselves. It’s called Drugs, Sex, Rock and Roll, Family Business, and Family Wealth Lessons from Metallica. And it’s, yeah, I play a song when I start it, but it’s the whole workshop is based on one-to-three-minute clips from a documentary about the band.
Nancy Calabrese: Right. Metallica, right?
Jeff Savlov: Metallica, and while they’re not blood relatives in that sense of family, when I watched the documentary for fun many years ago, because I liked the band and I was interested in the documentary, when I watched it, I was shocked by how much they were very much a family and they’ve stuck together through thick and thin. And so, I use these clips from the documentary to start discussions and to teach professionals and families, and it’s really entertaining and it’s like the most well-received talk that I do. [17:29]
Nancy Calabrese: Just in general, how long does it take a family to like for the light bulb to go off, you know, with your work?
Jeff Savlov: It’s a good question. Some families just know that they’re in a lot of pain and there’s a lot of fighting and they’re looking for someone who can help other families. The light bulbs gone off and they’ve done a lot of the right things. But if you think about it, just a numbers game, you have two parents, maybe they have three kids, but they all grow up in the same family together. The kids get involved. They watch the parents build it. They’ve seen a go from nothing to something significant. That’s one transition. But then when the third generation comes. So, the three kids start to marry people who didn’t grow up in the family. So now you have outsiders coming in. Each of those kids has their own kids. That cousin generation is where it gets tricky. The people who married in might have very different ideas about how the kids should fit into the business and what a sense of fairness is. And the kids have different values based on the different families they’re growing up in. So that’s where it gets really, tricky. What was the original question? I forgot. [18:34]
Nancy Calabrese: Just how long it takes a family, you know, I guess there’s no special time, right? It varies from family to family.
Jeff Savlov: So, some people, you know, it takes a while. And for some people, there’s been a kind of a light bulb and they know that they can find someone like me to help them, especially when they hear about it. Often, they’re they don’t know that there’s someone with my experience and they’ll be talking or telling their fears to their accountant or their attorney or their wealth manager. And if that person knows me says, hey, you know, there is a world of, of help there that you might not know about. So, some people, the light bulbs already partially got off and they’re looking for help and other people they really are doing harmful things that are going to hurt their family and their business and they take some work to get them to kind of look at things a different way. [19:23]
Nancy Calabrese: Yeah, I can’t believe we’re up with time, Jeff, and I could talk to you forever. What is the one takeaway you want to leave the audience with?
Jeff Savlov: Wow. It’s fun. For me, it’s relationships are everything in my personal life and selling. It’s really, I just, I love meeting people, connecting with people like you and I connected. And now we’re here on this podcast. I just think relationships are everything. So, if you’re selling something, you know, establishing a relationship with your prospects and just sort of in life. We just got back from a vacation in Puerto Rico and my wife just shakes her head. We get there and I’m in the pool and I’m talking to people from all over the world on vacation. She’s just sitting there reading a book and that’s what she likes to do. But I just like the relationship thing. And I developed friends in my week in Puerto Rico. [20:12]
Nancy Calabrese: Ha ha ha! Are you an I?
Jeff Savlov: I am an I, I and S. I’ve tested as I and S, I and a little D, but generally some form of I is always in there. Yeah.
Nancy Calabrese: Yeah, yeah, yeah. How can my rich people find you?
Jeff Savlov: Um, so it’s Jeff Savlov, S-A-V-L-O-V. My website is Blum and Savlov. So, it’s B-L- But if you search Jeff Savlov Family Business, any of those will get you to me.
Nancy Calabrese: All right. Hey folks, he’s the go-to guy. So, all of you sitting on a lot of wealth, you have kids, and you want to make sure that the wealth is, I guess, appreciated, and handled properly. Give Jeff a call, reach out to him. And Jeff, thanks so much for being on the show. We finally did it. And until we speak again, folks, we’ll see you next time. [21:15]
Jeff Savlov: Yeah, thanks, Nancy.
